More feelings

It feels like everyone is being called to feel their feelings. Paul too. But he's shut down. How can I help him? But more, how can I help me?

I was hurt that Paul got up and didn't say anything yesterday morning... just put his back to me and left.
I was hurt that he bent me over and had sex with me - just quick and came and didn't follow through with a "sex date" that we talked about Friday so we could have one this weekend... and we didn't. And then he came and there was no hope that we would later in the day.
I was hurt that he didn't talk to me... on the walk he didn't talk. He was playing games.
I was hurt that he didn't help me with the garden... his garden which he abandoned and it needed to be harvested to salvage some of it and he didn't help.
I was hurt that he didn't keep his promise that we were going to upload our teeshirt and blood pressure tracker.


Hurt that he doesn't fight for me... that he doesn't stand up to be the emotional strength/pillar. That he doesn't declare his love and commitment.